Is Your Teen a Good Friend?

Sometimes it's easier to worry about how our teen's friends treat them, but being a good friend is important, too, and it takes lots of practice. When you are talking to your teen about what it means to be a good friend, a simple question to ask is:

"Are you focused on being interesting or interested?"

This question can help with not only friendships, but making connections in general. My oldest struggles in social situations sometimes and she feels really awkward trying to make small talk. We told her to focus on listening to the other person and asking good questions, instead of worrying about what she will say. It really does help.

This question will also help your teen focus on what they can control (listening and caring) and worry less about the things they can't control (like if their friend agrees with what they are saying).

When we start to pay more attention to what the other person is saying/thinking/feeling, we automatically become a better friend and acquaintance. Everyone wants to be heard and seen, so teaching your teen how to do this will help them in all their relationships!